Thursday, December 1, 2016

Never Too Late: Lessons for Life Transformation

Sunset Over The Dead Sea in Israel
I recently read Ernest Gaines' A Lesson Before Dying for a seminary class. In this book the author unleashed a gripping and symbolic work on a host of enduring challenges as transformation hovered. In the novel’s various scenes, themes of love, family, faith, and expectations pierce the pages with lessons displayed in courage and testimony, then ultimately degrees of transformation for each character. From reading the actions of Grant, tortured teacher, to Jefferson who anxiously awaits execution, or Reverend Ambrose, conflicted support provider, the relevant question emerging for me is: How many learn what they’re supposed to learn between their sunrise and sunset? Taking place in the backdrop of familiar segments of racial realities, the African American journey around human identity and dignity, transcends place and time in Gaines’s words.
What struck me the most in this book, weaving in these segments and themes, shows up in a conversation between Grant and Jefferson on p. 193 as Gaines writes, “And that's all we are Jefferson, all of us on this earth, a piece of drifting wood, until we - each one of us, individually- decide to become something else. I am still that piece of drifting wood, and those out there are no better. But you can be better. Because we need you to be and want you to be. At this point I cried as Jefferson cried: a transformative moment for reader, character and work with rich symbolism appeared. I thought about a conversation with my late favorite uncle about five years ago on the topic of family challenges, especially during crisis, where some don’t step up but instead rest in their ‘ this is how I am’ stance. My uncle’s statement was, “Sometimes it’s time to be something else.”  A situation now calls for this new posture as was the case for Jefferson, to walk to his earthly finality as a man, for his godmother Miss Emma, the community and himself, and not take on the hog label which his persecutors attached to him. Throughout his imprisonment, Jefferson had many drifting thoughts, one noteworthy as the context for the time of his execution led up to the Easter holiday, as he repeated the phrase, “And he never said a mumbling word.” In the end Jefferson had learned to be strong in the Lord, modeling certainty in his identity as a man and the bravery of Jesus on his journey to Calvary, to fulfill the expectations of his Father. Actions which left transformation for those on the edge of this narrative such as the deputy Paul as a witness to Jefferson’s execution, ‘saw the light’ in the jail’s own ‘Damascus Road’ experience, and shared Jefferson’s bravery in the end with Grant. Then the ultimate story for the preaching and believing community emerged.

On a death bed or tragic accident or sudden illness, has one grasped the totality of those Believers Instructions Before Leaving Earth (BIBLE)? The inevitable journey after our drifting days, we can only hope we learn the critical ones that God has for us to learn, packaged for us; being open to the process. 

Sunday, October 2, 2016

Finding Life's Road to Realization

March on. Do not tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life’s path.

Kahil Gibran

            “Life is difficult.” In Dr. M. Scott Peck’s well known book, The Road Less Traveled, this is the first sentence. Startling at first glance, but when we think about these words, it’s very true.  Dr. Peck goes on to say that once we accept this fact, life becomes less difficult because this fact no longer matters.

            Keep going ISO (In Spite of).

            We then focus on the many roads ahead, knowing as we proceed on our odyssey that some truths will become evident. One such truth is that we ourselves sometimes get in our own way and create difficulty. Other times we show out brilliantly, handling our business. Hard stuff happens and none of us are immune. Wonderful times roll around and we all get to celebrate.

            Most of life actualizes somewhere in the middle and that is where we learn—traveling on what appears to be a ‘long and winding’ road.

             I’ve (literally) broken down on the road yet found inspiration in the words of a gospel song that relates, “Nobody told me the road would be easy; I don't believe he brought me this far to leave me.”  These words help me to recognize and use my IPS (Internal Positioning System) more.

            What I’ve come to terms with on this journey we call life is that I have experienced a lot and will experience much more. This range of events has presented many emotions for me, reflective of things I’ve missed and things I’ve cherished. I’m sometimes lonely for a mate, yet proud of what God has allowed me to accomplish. I lament relationships that fell into dysfunction, yet relish those that remain in alignment. I revel in joy over family rites of passage and sometimes sink in sorrow over those who’ve transitioned to be with the Lord. I’ve learned that you can’t always count on those closest to you, but strangers of immense kindness will pass along your way.

            At either end of this spectrum, coping is what we do. We learn how to wipe out and negotiate and handle what’s thrown our way—it’s the Navigator’s mission. Facing the fact that no one roadway will put us exactly where we would like to be, we internalize this tough lesson. With no guarantees for happiness, we reach for it where we can find it. Oftentimes we’ve heard others say (or have thought to ourselves), "If I get this or that then I'll be happy." Trying to keep up with others in current lifestyle trends usually leads to temporary satisfaction, but an ultimate return to dissatisfaction. The important thing is to keep our focus and be optimistic even in the most challenging of times. Where we are is where we are. 

            Understand that the roads of life are best paved with managed expectations.

Excerpted from my motivational autobiography, Navigating Life’s Roadways: Stories of Insight from My Odyssey and Inspiration for Your Journey in print and Kindle eBook

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

True Wealth: Your Skills, Assets, Liabilities, and Limitations

“I am what time, circumstance, and history have made of me, certainly, but I am also much more than that. So are we all.”
~ James Baldwin, Writer and Activist

            Who are you at the core?
            Each of us has an eternal spring that keeps us pressing on through adversities. Do you know how to draw from that well? It is that ancestral reserve of perseverance and endurance, the nature of your past applied to your current environment, the source to nurture your family circumstances and attend to the challenges and opportunities of the present day. What does this well of abundance look like for you?
            Your journey to your current place in time is unique here, and you are accompanied and your story is enriched by the baggage you hoist.
            Now, it is totally and measurably about you. So what makes you stand out?  Do you also recognize your less-desirable personality quirks that could sabotage your success? Can you identify how to stay out of your own way?

            Self-awareness and knowledge are critical in this shifting landscape. Knowing the ‘good, the bad, and the ugly’ of your personality will afford you the realism needed to fuel your drive down your individual path. This information about ourselves is a valuable tool for negotiating new territory and exploring unrealized opportunities, both professionally and personally. Referred to today as “emotional intelligence,” this knowledge supports us as we navigate a variety of interpersonal situations. In addition to enhanced relationships, this information will help you to “Respect yourself,” as crooned by the 1970s R&B group, The Staple Singers.  We have the knowledge, the know-how to establish a bank of our unique offerings to the world.

Excerpted from my book, For People of Strength, Soul, and Spirit: Seven Guidelines for Life & Career Success,

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Success Street: Find Your Unique Position

Every day of your life is a page of your history.
 Arabic proverb

            Success is……I am successful because…I will achieve success when….
            How do you spell success?  “Setbacks Uncovered, Ceasing Control, Excelling Serious Superstar” Sounds good, doesn’t it?
            We’ve all had a win.
            A turn down a new street made some pursuit easy. The right is ours to define what achievements are most measureable and memorable for us.
            Everyone was not meant to have the perfect family, career, finances or material things. Nor do we all want them.  But for each of us there is a unique formula that adds up to a meaningful, productive and constructive journey. In some way we’ve overcome a challenge, let go of a ‘bad trip’ or found a right way.
            In someone’s view, we’re the best ……
            Fill in, keep driving and seeking to form your success.

            As we view the film of our lives, let’s claim every win a blockbuster. Visit your Broadway!

Excerpted from my motivational autobiography, Navigating Life’s Roadways: Stories of Insight from My Odyssey and Inspiration for Your Journey in print and Kindle eBook

Saturday, June 4, 2016

Navigation Power: Steer Toward Success

“I have discovered in life that there are ways of getting almost anywhere you want to go, if you really want to go.”
~ Langston Hughes, Poet and Activist

Thoughts For Moving Forward

  • Be determined to move strong, in spite of uncertainty and storms (whatever they look like for you: slow economy, job market, relationship challenges).
  • Rudder at the right signs. Stay anchored in your values, visions, and interests. (Revisit your lists.)
  • Open all lanes for learning. Detours and potholes are there for a reason. (If you fall in or go the wrong way, so what? Find a way out or around.)

  • Explore the right realms, your major motivators. What’s the gas in your engine? (passion, giving back, your expertise, challenge, taking care of your family)

  • Acknowledge fellow travelers. We don’t journey alone (Get support from friends, mentors, and networks.)

  • Plot a route to success that’s realistic. Be confident in who you are and pace your journey to your style. Do you!

  • Rejuvenate. Stop and rest. Take a break, vacation, or staycation (Have a special way to fuel you.)

  • Boldly remain a believer in your own success. See it to the right, left, front, and rear as you check your mirrors. (Engage!)

  • Claim victory at critical times. Segment your successes for each leg of your journey (Small wins are good).

Wednesday, May 4, 2016

Line Up: Decide To Be and Lead

There is nothing impossible to him who will try.
Alexander the Great

To confront the challenges, emergencies, and problems of a dynamic and fluid society, good problem-solving and decision-making skills are critical. Sometimes new methodologies and insights are required, inspired by pioneers, those who are willing to chart a new path to reach organizational and individual objectives. Leaders of today and tomorrow are being asked to do just that—to engage in creative thinking and paradigm shifting in approaching problems to come up with new efficiencies.
            For that reason, the word “change” is constantly used today. Restructuring and reinventing have also brought about new processes, procedures, and policies that make for a challenging the workday. However difficult these changes and challenges may seem, they can also be tremendous learning opportunities. Our power comes from deciding to be in line with this learning.
            But first we must report in and decide to be. Then get busy. 
            Leadership, for personal or professional reasons —must remain consistent and in line.
            When one takes this type of firm stance, it can be a challenge to deal with those who don’t. Making up one’s mind should be simple enough. How many times have we all heard or said this? It’s such a powerful statement regarding decision and change. In one of my conversations with my late Uncle Horace about family members and who, among them, could be depended on to call or act, particularly in a crisis, we agreed that folks use the excuse, “That’s just the way I am.” He came back with, “But it’s time for them to be something else.”
            Yes, there are times to follow that popular athletic shoe tag line and ‘just do it’, to move away from what’s comfortable, and stop making excuses. We are who we are, but it’s okay to try a different way of being, chart new territory, and be purposeful. 
As a leader, each time we walk into a new situation, we have some choices: to be. This new landscape is ours to work and fill. With daring determination, we can choose to move through what was barren to create bounty: poor morale to empowered team, unwilling students to motivated learners, and unsure children to confident next generationer. Decide to change the course by helping others in their quest to be better, starting in the current moment.
            Important also is for leaders to ensure complex situations get the right amount of attention. Too often they dust off really serious issues as trivial. Instead, these problems have layers of stuff that need to be waded through. This era of tweets, microwaves, or solving a crime in sixty minutes of television has led to impatience with the processes that are often necessary to find enduring solutions. Instead, the issues continue to surface. How do we put them under and out of the way?
Once we decide to be, we get our mojo to create a different outcome!
Are you open to creating a new and personal frontier?  If so there are ways to ensure positive change and enduring solutions by enacting the following points.
  • Stake your claim! Define your leadership drop zone.
  • Move fearlessly onward. And explore new territories.
  • Gather your strength. Then focus on priorities.
  • Be curious and open to new frontiers. Create anew.
  • Test the limits. By taking risks.
  • Have a pioneer mindset. Go with your force of belief in all that might be possible. That’s your ultimate power!

            Charge! Be ready to be first! Decide to solve and resolve!

Parts excerpted from my book, Hardcore Leadership: 11 Master Lessons from My Airborne Ranger Uncle’s “Final Jump”