Sunday, July 29, 2012

Deborah L. Parker Author Interview, Navigating Life's Roadways

Deborah L. Parker
Sylvia Browder's Blog for Women Entrepreneurs

An Interview with Deborah Parker: Author, Speaker & Entrepreneur

Sylvia: Hi Deborah, it is such a pleasure to interview you. Please give our readers a brief introduction of yourself and a little about your book.
Deborah: I made my world entrance in the rural town of Waverly Virginia and have traveled many paths since then that have provided hard yet hearty lessons. In my motivational memoir, Navigating Life’s’ Roadways: Stories of Insight from My Odyssey and Inspiration for Your Journey, I take readers along as I chronicles the insights from my determined single parent upbringing in the home of my wise grandparents, then on to college, an army reserve officer career to corporate manager, entrepreneur, breast cancer survivor and now published author. I have been interviewed on Destiny Radio, My Spirit DC, on the setbacks and successes of my journey through family, career, health and relationship issues that I share in this well-received book.
Now I manage a motivational speaking, leadership and personal development workshop company, The DPJ Training Group, located in Leesburg, specializing in seminars and coaching on career, diversity, management and communications topics. I hold a B.A. in Sociology from the College of William and Mary and M.A. in Human Resources Development from George Mason University.
A love for writing started early in my life so while in college I often asked my professors if I could write papers for extra grade credit. Taking that passion forward, I have authored articles on life strategies, business and community issues for publications such as the Alexandria Old Town Crier, Washington Afro Newspaper, Metro Herald and Arizona’s Black Executive Magazine.
I am a member of Loudoun County Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., the Metro DC Chapter of the American Society for Training and Development, and Mount Pleasant Baptist Church in Herndon, Virginia.
An area of particular writing interest for me is taking the experiences from growing up and falling down to frame them into valuable lessons. Much of that I’ve found to come from my own mis-steps and the observations of my family to push on in spite of life’s challenges and personal frailties. I have more books to come in this genre that readers will find reflective and motivating!

Sylvia: What inspired you to write your first book?
Deborah: My mother passed in March 2010 and as the old folks say, I experienced more losses. I was then led (by God) to pick up on things I‘d been writing on and off for about 15 years and this book took shape and was published in July 2011. So I also see my mother as my spiritual co-author because she also knew of my goal of writing a book.

Sylvia: Wow that is so special. To be able to share such an accomplishment with your mother; she would be so proud of you. Tell me, what she would say about your book if she was still alive?
Deborah: My mother would say “I knew you could do it.” And she’d be on the phone with her friends telling them, “You know, Debbie wrote a book.” Yeah, she’s always up to something.”

Sylvia: Is there a message in your novel that you want readers to grasp?
Deborah: Never count yourself out. As I’ve encountered my own off course collisions from bad decisions and lack of purpose, there were people in my life who thought I’d never recover. But I didn’t give up on myself, knowing that God “didn’t bring me this far to leave me.” His purpose for my life would be revealed in time.

Sylvia: Do you have any advice for other writers?
Deborah: Just write the words will take shape when it’s time to birth it!

Sylvia: What marketing techniques have you used to sell your books and which ones have been most successful?
Deborah: I have tapped into my networks from college, army, and sorority by sending out newsletters and hosting book signings. Also book clubs have been a good venue.

Sylvia: Really? Well, as for tapping into various book clubs, tell me a little more about your experience using this type of marketing?
Deborah: I’ve contacted friends that are in book clubs and asked them to suggest my book as well as my own book clubs (past and present). And I offer to come and speak to the club.

Sylvia: Why should we buy your book?
Deborah: If you’ve ever:
  • Found yourself unclear on what to do on your career path;
  • Wavered in your faith journey;
  • Traveled the road of sickness;
  • Made mistakes along the way;
  • Lost and grieved hard;
  • Been so low you couldn’t figure out up;
  • Wondered what your childhood taught you;
  • Had family and relationship challenges;
  • Or fill in the blanks……
Then you will find a story in this book to relate and renew from! Ultimately be inspired!

Sylvia: Is there a special place that you prefer when you write?
Deborah: My energy is good in my home office or there are times I’m led to move to my kitchen table, a subtle shift in the creativity

Sylvia: What projects are you currently working on?
Deborah: I’m working on a sequel workbook to Navigating Life’s’ Roadways as well as a leadership book based on the lessons I learned from my favorite uncle, a Vietnam vet airborne ranger, who passed away in December.

Sylvia: What is your POWER WORD? Why this word? (A power word is a word that has great effect to the person hearing or reading it. My power word is EMPOWER)
Deborah: MOVE I’ve found that God works with my life by taking me low then telling me when to MOVE up and on. I started my business and wrote a book after coming out of “valley experiences.”

Sylvia: How have you found ways to make sense out of the challenges of your life?
Deborah: I see them all as “ordained.” It was necessary for me to go through these events to get growing in a new season. For example, writing a book while grieving the loss of my mother gave me the opportunity to reflect on the power of her life and how it’s intertwined with mine in ways I wasn’t aware of initially. I was born when she was a high school teenager and she went back to graduate. I’m proud of that, particularly because this was 1955 in a poor black family. It was and still is a big deal and speaks volumes for her grit and my grandparent’s support. And the fact that I went on to college is an outgrowth of her determination to learn and make it!

Sylvia: Deborah, thank you! Please share your contact information:
Deborah: My pleasure Sylvia. My contact information is below:
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Navigating-Lifes-Roadways-by-Deborah-L-Parker/167445413327812
Facebook: www.facebook.com/pages/The-DPJ-Training-Group
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/profile/view?id=77669511&trk=tab_pro
Blog: http://marysmatters.wordpress.com/
Blog: http://leadershipquests.blogspot.com/2011/07/leadership-family-and-roots.html

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Press On! 3 Ways to Sync Your IPS (Internal Positioning System) to Destination Success



How do we find the “true north” to achieving our goals?

The reality is that in moving on down the roads of our journeys, we gain and lose ground. All is aligned with great momentum one moment. Then in the next we get misdirected and wonder how we’ll find our way. And most times we eventually do get there, somehow. Leading us to ponder, is there a life GPS to keep us on course?

I’ve surmised that we all have an IPS (Internal Positioning System) to steer us. If we engage it. Just like an automobile’s navigation system— with its GPS, dashboard and features— we too can punch in coordinates for where we want to go in life. We have attributes, strengths and limitations that direct us. Our motivations, habits or wits contribute to how we handle the inevitable bumpy roads. Destinations for our career, family, health, quality of life or relationship goals – we can arrive at these places, based on how we deploy the elements of our IPS’s dashboard.

Yet, I’ve found that this IPS, like GPS technology, has worked for me sometimes and malfunctioned others. In my car, when the quirky voice of the dashboard is silent, I check to see if the GPS is on. Particularly if I’m in unfamiliar territory.  In my life, if I’m not adhering to right messages, I sense a system failure; the signal for me then is that maybe my IPS is not on.  I feel lost, literally, on my life quest. Is this a place I need to explore more, I question. 
OR
Maybe I need to Press!
So what are three parts of the on button for syncing that IPS?
The road I grew up on

1.      Discover Your Unique Routing. Understanding how our life works in terms of its unique cycles and circumstances provides a map for focus. Why so? Knowing the design of our route helps us navigate and heed the messages in the hills and potholes of life.  I have come to realize that an off road collision in a low place is part of my special path before I slowly make my way out to higher ground and another level that God has waiting for me. Also moving through the roadways of our journey we hold different emotions and experiences that bring out our strengths as well as our frailties. At times, I get sidetracked here, but this history accumulates, becoming my cargo as I launch in another direction. Whether it’s good or bad we all carry this load. And it can keep us on a realistic route, as we define success.
 

  1. What’s the Force That’s With You? This IPS is part of our drive, an engine that fuels us every day. It takes us through storms and other bad conditions. Our IPS is composed of  ‘gifts and wits’, perspectives, willingness to admit and learn from mistakes, humor, gratitude, wisdom, faith and the list…goes on.  These are the blocks of our being, in varying quantities. A good deal of this force comes from our early life values and grounding. Raised poor, Baptist, in a rural town, but instilled with hope for better times, and family who encourage me to “git my lessin”, equipped me to set out on my sojourns of twists and turns. With accomplishments and failures. There's power in both of these for us, ignited from this combustible combination.

3.      Recognize Your Hardwiring. What’s inbred in our natural circuits? There’s a DNA that makes and shapes us to be. I often share that at my core, I’m the oldest child product of a determined single parent teen mother. With no excuses, she burrowed her way through many adversities on her journey. After she passed in 2010, I reflected on what she’d left me, spiritually.  I share in my motivational memoir, Navigating Life’s Roadways, that she provided an example of sheer will and a strong work ethic for me. And I think of this when I get stuck or waylaid in my life. She taught me to drive, pass some of life’s tests and now has turned the steering wheel over to me— to keep going. The operating hardware and software of her IPS (Internal Positioning System) spiritually resides on my dashboard, with God —my ever present Pilot, the main engaging button.   I've found that there's an automatic syncing coming out of this type of recognition, which will stand the hard inspections of  our many journeys.


Press On Through Storms, Sync your Success and Drive to Your Best!



Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Navigating! For Success in Life, Career and Business Pursuits: A Personal Mid-Year Review – Whole, Worthy and Wel...

Navigating! For Success in Life, Career and Business Pursuits: A Personal Mid-Year Review – Whole, Worthy and Wel...: I really liked this Whole, Worthy and Well in 2012 slogan I came up with as the New Year gently pushed its way in.   I used it in a busi...

A Personal Mid-Year Review – Whole, Worthy and Well in 2012?


I really liked this Whole, Worthy and Well in 2012 slogan I came up with as the New Year gently pushed its way in.  I used it in a business ministry program at my church, in an Easter weekend speaking engagement for women and I blogged about 5 steps to rise into being whole, worthy and well in 2012.

Like many I had a few items on my New Year’s resolutions list, of the personal and professional kind, determined to get me to this “triple W” state. More business, lose weight, be kind to everyone…, some standard “I’ll do betters and a few different ones. 

Yet as June 30 approached I realized that half of 2012 is gone. And it was time to assess and ask myself a few questions; to do a mid-year review. Here's another list to respond to: Is there anything I can check off as accomplished? How am I doing overall with those 2012 goals? Plus this is a Leap Year, supposedly there’s excess out there to jump into. Do I really want the answer to these becomes another issue to ponder. Then when I’m truthful with myself, I own up to what did go right, even with a struggle. A few different speaking engagements and I published 2 eBooks; not bad. And the themes of these events were about some form of personal reviewing!

Revisiting our actions can be difficult, but often necessary. So in my blog in May, I posted a few inquiries for thought in obtaining “triple W” in 2012.

How do you define wholeness?

What are you worthy of?

Who are you when you are well?

For many of us, a basic sense of feeling in control of our lives, showing up authentic, taking care of our physical, mental and spiritual being with a healthy sense of self-esteem would be filtered into the answers to those questions.

So why aren’t we always there? What gets in the way or things that become DEFLATORS?

Certainly life’s disappointments, our habits, motivations and perspectives can flow out in each of those areas to send us spiraling downward.

I realized that I was caught in a few of those deflators from achieving my best “triple W” being. Letdowns and cookie monsters reigned.

What’s my now?

“You can always begin again” is one of those spiritual sayings that resonates most clearly.

I took a few steps to move forward.  The weight issue was one of my biggest personal challenges, I got way off course. On to the gym yesterday and today. Momentum is always Good! Then while out on a walk from the gym this morning, more clarity came in the way of this statement.

Sometimes we all need a little PUSH. Purpose, Understanding, Support, Healing.

But nothing beats the ultimate PUSH. Pray Until Something Happens!

And “your latter can be greater.”

FYI:
My two eBooks on Kindle are:


Life is a Review: Observations and Collections of My Passages Through the Times, a compilation of essays, blogs, poems from my writings for over 20 years,
Navigating Life’s Roadways: Stories of Insight from My Odyssey and Inspiration for Your Journey (my print book is now available as an eBook.)