Saturday, July 11, 2015

Birth of a Book: Navigating Life's Roadways




My first booksigning of Navigating Life's Roadways in 2011
 
Life is a message – listen to it. Life is a belief – trust it. Life is a gift – accept it.
Life is love – think about it. Life is an adventure – dare it.
                                   Northern Sotho proverb, South Africa

 
 
My first book, Navigating Life's Roadways: Stories of Insight From My Odyssey and Inspiration for Your Journey, was a charge and blessing from above.

Writing it had been on my radar for a while.

I remember first mentioning my authorship intent to family and friends about 16 years ago. Then I started writing—capturing life’s glories and challenges as I saw them.  A few years later as I exclaimed this vision to others, the comments ranged from supportive to discouraging—but I wasn't necessarily deterred. Continuing to write, I cataloged more stories as my life’s map unfolded.

 Just speaking the words of my writing goal gave this project life – sprouting the seeds. God gradually put a series of experiences in my life—some great and some not so great with professional, spiritual and personal accounts—to get me to this point. Responses and residue from the issues of family and friends gave me new insights for addressing the travails of my odyssey. Participants in my workshops—through their comments and questions—validated my thoughts of writing this book and alerted me that so many of us are struggling and looking for answers. The rollercoaster nature of the social, political and economic climate of this country pointed to a need for new maps to circumvent these troubled times. My own life's missteps started to reveal instructive destinations…and this book evolved.

Through the years I stayed on Persistence Parkway—revisiting what I’d written, attending writer’s groups and keeping the goal alive. I also stopped at Waiting Wall to assess where I was on my path and then tweak my manuscript. The original writings focused on everyone else's story. When I showed this manuscript my oldest brother, he asked me why I didn’t share more of my life. He said, "People like to read about other people’s lives…” and I'd done many positive things in spite of our rough beginnings and he was proud of me. My brother reemphasized the fact that we all have a story to tell. Not long after that conversation I attended the funeral of a saved saint—an old friend of my family's. The choir sang her favorite hymn, "Tell it When You Get it Right”.

God was allowing me to tell my story and the time is right.

             Along with the other teachings from my journey’s wanderings.

        
            The starting point of my odyssey is my hometown of Waverly Virginia, where the stories focus on the foundations laid on the roads I first trod with my family, faith and community structure.  Proceeding to other major avenues such as school (because I liked Williamsburg so much I wound up going to college there), relationships and careers — I then periodically circle back to my childhood in later narratives.


I also penned the major parts of this book in the year of some personal and extremely pivotal life events.
My mother passed away on March 10,2010  and the agonies of the grieving process were tremendous; a surreal event that’s been devastating on all fronts for me.

In this process I discovered that we give to fill a void. I am single and don’t have children, so birthing this book is one of the ways I hope to leave a footprint on the world. Since my mother passed, I’ve felt a chasm of many emotional proportions. Yet the process of grieving her transition gave to this book in ways I couldn’t recognize at first. She left a legacy in the circle of life.

             Once I was led to and committed to writing, energies from everywhere cooperated—seems like phrases, memories and lessons abounded at every corner. My mother knew of my writing aspirations and I feel this creative force was her way of working through God to stir up my spirit. While out walking, ideas would flood my head as I looked at the sky or the landscape around me. I’d hurry back to my office and quickly capture the thoughts—adding fresh words to the manuscript on my computer.
 
            This journey to publication continued and I've since written four other books, they too part of a birthing process that started over 20 years ago.  Remember birthing can be painful, but the yield worth it.  Keep pushing on!  Be clear on a destination for the results....
 
 
Excerpted from my motivational autobiography, Navigating Life’s Roadways: Stories of Insight from My Odyssey and Inspiration for Your Journey in print and Kindle eBook http://www.amazon.com/dp/B008FQDPYE


Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Celebrate Life: Vast and Deep


 

Life is in the clouds: great life, broad life, deep life, elevated life.

Hawaiian Proverb

           


            There’s a song I love by the jazz vocalist Dianne Reeve, entitled, “Better Days”.  The words that resonate with me are, “…you can’t get to no better days until you make it through the night.” Dark and frightening deepness of the dusk have brought forth bright and shining opportunities. Keep looking up even when you’re down!

            How do we maintain this joy on the journey— regardless of trials and tests?

            Three things come to mind: Find ways to proclaim good news. Do mark the milestones in life. Write them down. 

            So make your list of joys as vast and wide as you choose.  Then shout it out!

 

Here’s my list of Journey’s Joys:

·         My mother and family loved and love me

·         Getting to know and learn from my grandparents          

·         My graduations from high school and college

·         All of my birthdays

·         Getting my commission as an Army officer

·         The births of my nephew and 2 nieces

·         Getting my first paid training/consulting contract

·         Seeing my mother retire from her job at the factory

·         Paying off my first car and getting the title

·         My Mom’s 70th birthday party we gave her in 2007

·         Paying for my Master’s Degree with my Mastercard – then settling that debt

·         Ten years as a cancer survivor

·         Buying my first home in Phoenix

 

            Remember LG (Life is Good). ISO – in spite of.

Excerpted from my motivational autobiography, Navigating Life’s Roadways: Stories of Insight from My Odyssey and Inspiration for Your Journey in print and Kindle eBook http://www.amazon.com/dp/B008FQDPYE
 

Saturday, April 25, 2015

Making It With a Vision: Eyes to The Sky


 

 

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

~ Harriet Tubman, Conductor of the Underground Railroad

 

            Imagine freedom. Done.

            Vision: A plain message to prevent personal perish.

            From Kunta Kinte to Harriet to Martin to you, we harbor plenty of iconic images of what it has taken and takes today to achieve the right to be. Shackles to shacks and now suburbs, this new life shape is unfolding. From you to me, can we model their grit and, yes, sacrifice? Whatever it looks like in time, energy, money, effort, or even loss, make the picture of your envisioned reality as plain as it needs to be. Imagine your career, your family, and your everything else.

            The dream triggers this new thing that you want. Measureable and to the point is how to capture this goal. Ask yourself: How badly do I want this? What am I willing to go through to get it?  Only you have the answer!

            As Earth, Wind, and Fire sing, “Keep your head to the sky.”

            Dream, imagine, and take a risk!
 
 
Excerpted from my book,For People of Strength, Soul, and Spirit:
Seven Guidelines for Life & Career Success  http://www.amazon.com/For-People-Strength-Soul-Spirit/dp/1479237019
 

 
 
 

Saturday, March 7, 2015

Spock Factor: Seven Lessons To Live Long, Navigate Strong, and Prosper Well




“The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few” (or “the one”).

Mr. Spock, from Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan

The passing of Leonard Nimoy last month, known for his TV/movie character Mr. Spock on the Star Trek series, brought special memories of this logical Vulcan and key member of the USS Enterprise star ship from fans everywhere.

And as many celebrities whose on screen performance expertise gives life to unforgettable icons, important lessons also ensue that can be helpful as navigate our own journeys.

Mr. Spock’s actions represented elements of the daily realities of people, how to get along and use your talents for a purpose.  Drilling a bit further down on these lessons, seven of these insights are:


  1. Being Different is fine and needed. Recognize the gift of your uniqueness and use it for the good of others.
  2. Take risks and adapt to new situations as you ‘boldly go where no man has gone before.’ Claim your enterprise.
  3. There are times to sacrifice for the needs of others in the various roles we have in life, from parent, family member, citizen, leader, neighbor or colleague.
  4. It’s good to have a BFF who accepts you as Mr. Spock did in the persona of Captain James T. Kirk
  5. Explore and engage life. Leonard Nimoy’s intellect and interests beyond his Mr. Spock portrayal were evident in his passions for other art forms.
  6. Keep head and heart connected but logic yields the answer at times… And so do feelings.
  7. Understand all the different parts and origins of yourself – Mr. Spock was very much aware of his Vulcan and Earth inclinations and managed them as best he could.
 
Make your voyage a strong one, navigate it to the fullest, and prosper in all you do!